Meghan Markle has shared the “grief” and “pain” she felt after having miscarriage this year. In an op-ed for the New York Times, the duchess of Sussex went public about having a miscarriage in July while pregnant with her second child with her husband, Prince Harry.

In the op-ed, titled ‘The Losses We Share,’ Meghan shared

After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right. I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.

Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt that clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.

Meghan went on to describe the grief she felt after having a miscarriage and discussed how many people carry the pain of miscarriage alone.

She said, “Losing a child means carrying almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have to suffer from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.

We have learned that when people ask how many of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter—for all of us. In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.

Our love and thoughts are with Meghan and Prince Harry.